Nancy’s newest Study is called “Taking Aim at Pleasing God.” It’s one you should read and share with others. It makes a great group Bible study.
I published a new workbook: “Developing a Minister for Service in the Gospel of Christ.” It’s intended to compliment, mentor and train those who desire to enter into Christian ministry. It’s to be used under the supervision of a seasoned mentor or leader – and is most effective in small groups.
Let’s talk about fishing. As much as I love eating fresh fish, I’ve never been much of a fisherman or spent time fishing. I don’t enjoy it and I’m certainly not any good at it. Besides, who wants to clean fish? Obviously some of us do.
I’m Dr. Bob and for just a mentoring minute, I want to ask you, “What if?” You are probably thinking, “What if what? (more…)
Consider this thought: “You can control your attitudes or your attitudes can control you.” Controlling your attitudes is a proven principle for success. Have you ever watched how children typically interact with each other? (more…)
Sarah Mueller is Dr. Abramson’s daughter. Here’s her Mentoring Minute:
My husband and I like to joke around about what our neighbors might think of us. Do they think we are strange for having 4 kids (yes, really – 4 boys!) ? Do they think we are over-protective because we homeschool? Do they automatically think we are judgmental because we are Christians? When my boys are being much too loud outside, I wonder if the neighbors are rolling their eyes about “all those noisy Mueller boys.”
Today I realized these are the wrong questions to ask myself. I shouldn’t worry about whether someone else thinks I’m strange, judgmental, or over-protective. In Romans 12:2 ESV, Paul said, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” This means we are set-apart. I’m supposed to be different!
What I should ask myself is whether my neighbors see Jesus in my actions. When my son does something wrong, does she see me patiently correcting him in love? Does my neighbor see me loving and respecting my husband when others may be complaining about theirs? Am I welcoming and helpful, loving my neighbor as myself?
Once I redirect myself and focus on sharing and showing God’s love for others, I stop worrying about what others think. The negative impressions may or may not be there, but it doesn’t really matter. The kids are going to be too loud (they are sinners in need of grace just like the rest of us). I’m probably going to mess up and need to ask forgiveness. But I believe it’s in those moments when God’s grace shows through and He is glorified. So what do the neighbors think of us? I still don’t know, but now I realize that I don’t really mind, as long as I’m asking myself the right questions What kind of questions do you ask yourself? Do you need to redirect your focus?
Recently, I was reviewing one of the lessons I would be teaching on my next visit to the Chinese language ministry school in Brooklyn New York that I am working to establish. The translation of each lesson into Chinese is a lengthy process for them to do. One of these lessons I sent to them was, “Living a Transparent Life.” As I was reviewing the lesson that they had been translating to use when I arrive there, I realized I had left one little word out of a sentence. Here is how the sentence read on the copy I sent for translation: “You are obligated to show everybody everything that is going on inside you.” When I read it, I was horrified. I immediately called the pastor in New York and explained I had left one little word out of the sentence. It was the word, “NOT.” The sentence should have read, “You are NOT obligated to show everybody everything that is going on inside you.” The difference is enormous. Without this word, “NOT,” it could be devastating. I quickly contacted the translator and made sure the mistake was corrected.
Song of Songs 2: 15 (NKJV) says, “Catch us the foxes, The little foxes that spoil the vines, For our vines have tender grapes.” A little word that’s omitted or not spoken can turn into a very large problem. It can result in completely misunderstanding the intent of the thought and lead to actions or beliefs that may result in someone being hurt. Be careful to consider what you are going to say or write before it ends up going into someone’s heart like a dagger. There may not be a second chance. Thank the Lord I was able to correct the omission of the word, “NOT” before it was printed and handed out.
Be careful to take your time, to consider your words carefully, and think compassionately before you release them. Have you been too impulsive with what you say? Have you failed to consider the feelings of others before you say or write what’s on your mind? Reflect on this.
I have always enjoyed from reading the works of Charles Spurgeon. He wrote this in 1879: “A time will come, instead of shepherds feeding the sheep, the church will have clowns feeding the goats.” It’s easy to (more…)
There may be times when know you it is right to do something, and you know it is God’s will that you do it, but you just feel too lazy to do so. This can become a life-controlling habit that will keep you from the joy of success and significance. This should be a warning bell to you. Proverbs 26:15 (NKJV)says, “The lazy man buries his hand in the bowl; It wearies him to bring it back to his mouth.” Proverbs 26:14 (NKJV) says, “As a door turns on its hinges, so does the lazy man on his bed.”
Here are three biblical principles concerning laziness. First, laziness is a trap, a snare and something of which to be wary. Avoid it at all costs. Second, obedience is the necessary ingredient for success and significance. Do it at all costs. Otherwise, you will wake up one day, knowing you have wasted your life Third, willingness to put your heart into what God calls you to do is vital, especially when you don’t feel like it. Zeal ought to be a product of your being willing to go the extra mile with effort and excellence, once you know that God has directed your path.
Perhaps there are things that you know are of God, but which you have only reluctantly worked at. A lack of enthusiasm toward the will of God should be a signal that you are to put your heart into it, even if you don’t feel like it. Never resist the will of God. Is it time to ignite a fire under your attitudes and efforts?
Have you ever noticed the power of words? I have observed that many people not only wear their emotions on their sleeves, (more…)