No Control? What Now?

“When you find yourself in a situation of no control, you just have to determine to be still, accepting that God is God and you are not. It sounds easy, but it would be very helpful to have a plan or formula for this to happen. Below, I’ve provided a three-part formula for bringing the noise of confusion into subjection so you can get your thoughts under control and begin to listen for the Holy Spirit’s voice. You will find the premise of this formula is perhaps not normally how you would attack the problem. It will seem illogical to quiet the noise in your soul by drowning it out. Nevertheless, here’s how you do it:
1. Begin with a steady stream of vocal praise. This becomes your go-to weapon to fight the noise in your soul whenever it pops up…
2. Offer thanksgiving as an integrated, ever-present part of your daily routine, inserting it into whatever you find yourself doing. This is a habit of overcomers…
3. Simultaneous with your praise and worship, find good, even sacrificial works to occupy a significant portion of your time. It’s always helpful to major on someone else’s needs, in order to drown out the noise of your own needs. You can be sure that when you have quieted your soul, and are listening to the Holy Spirit, He will tell you the next step. Most often, it’s this: “Don’t just stand there, do something to help someone else go beyond their own emotional needs. It will help you go beyond yours.”

Taken from my book, “No Control? What Now?





Tiny White Bugs – b

I was sitting at my desk, looking out the window at our beautiful yard and the golf course beyond. A number of months ago we planted a young Hibiscus tree about fifteen feet from my window. It had beautiful orange flowers on it when we brought it home and planted it. After a while, the flowers disappeared. We examined the young tree and found it was infested with tiny white bugs that were feasting off the flower buds. They were destroying the buds before they could bloom into beautiful flowers. The bugs have successfully resisted the spray that’s supposed to kill them. We have determined to keep working to eliminate the bugs, so we can enjoy the beauty of the Hibiscus flowers, even though it will be a battle. Galatians 6:9 says, “And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we faint not.”

Have you noticed that it’s always the little things that seem to affect us the most? Perhaps it’s because they are not easy to notice or identify as the cause of our problems. Have you also found that even when we identify the little things as the problem, they can be difficult to deal with and eliminate from our lives? We may even choose to ignore them because they seem so small and couldn’t possibly cause us so much trouble, yet, they do! I’m Dr. Bob Like the little white bugs on my tree, the issues of life that seem insignificant can be recognized, dealt with and ultimately defeated. Don’t allow something that seems insignificant ruin what has so much potential for beauty in your life. It will take determined perseverance and faith, but with God, all things are possible.


Tiny White Bugs

Podcast: Tiny White Bugs

I was sitting at my desk, looking out the window at our beautiful yard and the golf course beyond. A number of months ago we planted a young Hibiscus tree about fifteen feet from my window. It had beautiful orange flowers on it when we brought it home and planted it. After a while, the flowers disappeared. We examined the young tree and found (more…)


No More Junk Drawers

At breakfast with my friend, Pastor Bryan Rosenbarger, we talked about how vital it is that leaders in the church live organized, disciplined lives. Everyone is watching. Pastor Bryan said to me, “Leaders who are disorganized and undisciplined are like junk drawers in a kitchen. Most of us (more…)


He Did It For Elijah. He Will Do It For You.

Are you dealing with someone who has depression. Here’s a Mentoring Minute I posted recently. Perhaps it will help: “Let’s talk about a great question God asks us from time to time. It’s “What are you doing here?” 1 Kings, Chapter 19, tells us of Elijah fleeing from Jezebel’s threat to revenge the deaths of the prophets of Baal by killing him. If you take the time to study the chapter, you will see (more…)


Adversity Reveals Our Character

Discouraging experiences are inevitable. I heard Mr. Jalen Rose, a retired professional basketball player, say, “Adversity doesn’t build character, it reveals it.” When I heard this, I thought about the Jewish Queen of Persia, Esther.  (more…)