I have come to realize that doing nice things is most often good. However, there are times when doing nice things is wrong, because it justifies or excuses others in their selfish or sinful behavior. Consider the example of parents who avoid confrontation with their children, even when the kids are at an early age. As a result, many children never learn how to be healthy, giving adults. This happens because their parents were fearful of offending them. Perhaps they just did not want to go through the efforts necessary to discipline them. It was easier not to make the children accountable than to face the difficulties of training them properly. They chose to treat their kids “nicely.” Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV) says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Here is a piece of excellent advice. Stop doing the nice thing, when you should start doing the right thing. Many find it easier to do nice things instead of confronting their children, or others too, when they behave badly. Everyone will pay for this later. Measure the patterns of your life against whether they are consistent with doing the right things. Most of the time, these will also be nice things, but not always. One thing is sure. Doing the right things always become building blocks of personal, Christ-like character and encourages a positive self-image. I’m Dr. Bob. Now, ask yourself how much you value doing the right things? Or, do you often prefer doing things that are comfortable and easy instead?